Friday, November 21, 2014

Everyone's Pro Life by Ann Garboczi Evans...

Welcome, Anne!  Thank you so much for sharing at A Softer Voice...

Everyone’s Pro-Life
Everyone’s Pro-Life. I mean everyone supports some people living. Many Pro-Abortion activists care deeply about saving the lives of domestic violence victims.  Even Hitler, evil personified to 21st century Americans, was Pro Aryan Nazis living long, healthy lives.
What should distinguish us as Pro-Lifers is that we care about all lives, not just some. But that’s a difficult task we set ourselves. I think a lot of Pro-Lifers believe if a pregnant mother would only say no to abortion, the battle for life would be won. For some women, this is the case. For example, a forty-year-old married mother of two teenagers gets pregnant with a change-of-life baby. She considers abortion because the baby is inconvenient, but then changes her mind. No abortion, problem solved, the baby will grow up in a loving home and go on to greatness.
But rejecting abortion does not solve all problems for many unborn children. When I was pursuing my Master’s in Counseling, I interned in a juvenile jail. You might not know this, but a large percentage of incarcerated teenage girls are pregnant, have a child, or have had an abortion. As I spent hours counseling the girls, they opened up about their lives and kids.
Most of the girls came to jail addicted to drugs or alcohol. Few were on the track to graduate high school, and when they talked about how they earned money, many mentioned prostitution. Yet, as they talked about their children, there was love in their voices. Even the ones who aborted talked about the dreams they used to have of holding that child.
But these girls were no more going to properly raise a child than go to college. The children who hadn’t been aborted were either with grandma, or placed in foster care by the state. The baby daddies had long since fled town, if the girl even knew which man (many of the 14-year-olds slept with 30-year-old men) had fathered her child.
Infant adoption, that’s the key, most Pro-Lifers say. There are hordes of infertile American couples longing to adopt a healthy infant and willing to pay through the nose to do so. These parents-in-waiting are usually well-educated, on the wealthy side, loving, and exceptionally well-prepared to be excellent parents. Perfect solution for incarcerated, drug-abusing, or teenage pregnant women, right?
Wrong. I know the drug-abusing teens I worked with in the jail. They aren’t going to give their baby up for adoption. First off, you need the fathers’ consent, and most of those men are too irresponsible to sign away their rights. I counseled one girl who got an abortion just so she didn’t have to deal with the birth father.
Second, it takes a strong woman to sign away her rights before even seeing her child. The teens I worked with were too immature for that. No, they’ll keep their baby while its snuggly, neglect it some, skip the pediatrician visits. The baby will turn one and start getting into trouble. Maybe they’ll leave the baby home alone while they go a party and social services will get involved. The terrible twos may inspire substance abusing mom to physical abuse or perhaps her latest boyfriend will sexually abuse the child. The child will be taken away to foster care.
At this point, the child’s been neglected, abused, and “damaged” in the eyes of the wealthy, well-educated, exceptionally well-prepared couples who fund domestic infant adoption.
Twenty-five percent of children admitted to foster care are ages 0-3. Many are drug-exposed infants admitted to foster care directly from the hospital. No one’s lining up to foster these babies. Foster care usually doesn’t pay for daycare, so if you accept children who aren’t in school yet, you probably can’t be a working mom. Babies are expensive: diapers, formula, outgrow clothes every few weeks. Foster care stipends may cover the expenses of a school-aged child, but they’re unlikely to stretch far enough to cover all of an infant’s needs. And though most young children admitted to foster care end up needing an adoptive home, foster parents have no grantees. You put everything on the line by loving a child whole-heartedly and yet still may have to give him back to less than stellar birth parents.
Is it any surprise that not many adults are signing up for the job? Since there’s always a shortage of foster parents, social workers are forced to accept less than ideal foster families. Perverts have been known to sign up for foster care so they can have a stream of children to abuse. There are terrible stories of foster children being emotionally, physically, or sexually abused by foster parents.
So what’s to be done? Pro-Lifers need to be more involved in foster care. It’s easy to be Pro-Life if you’re only worried about saving some lives, cute infants, healthy babies. Hitler could do that. But to fully embrace every life takes even more than passing a law against abortion or talking young girls into keeping their babies. Being fully Pro-Life demands an all out, self-sacrificial overhaul of society where we really do embrace the “least of these” no matter their age, problems, criminal history, or substance abuse.
Being Pro-Life requires talking about foster care.

          Anne holds a Master’s in Counseling and Bachelor’s in Classical Liberal Arts. She has had a passion for writing historical fiction ever since reading Rosemary Sutcliff’s novels as a preteen. She wrote her first full length novel at fifteen. She is a military spouse and mother to a little boy, “Joe-Joe.”
          Her inspiration for Scorched Earth came from moving to the Colorado Rockies. She loves reading Christian fiction and wanted to weave a lighthearted tale about love, rivalry, and the taming of the west.
          When not writing, you can find Anne reading Dr. Seuss for the 100th time, vainly attempting to potty train Joe-Joe, or working on her fixer-upper house with her husband.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Christian Women's Voice

     Christian Women's Voice has been an unexpected blessing in my life. One that I could never have known to seek or imagine would come to me.

     Debbie Dillon and I met in Patty Wysong's Clearing the Blog Fog class a few years ago and, for reasons I could never explain, the Lord placed me on Debbie's list of contributors as she took this giant step of faith. It is my joy to be included, stretched, and challenged when each semi-monthly deadline rolls around.

     I would be remiss not to take advantage of our "C" week to publicly thank Debbie and to acknowledge her faithfulness to the calling of her amazing ministry to women of all ages, all walks of life. Each issue is lovingly set in place by Debbie, and the results confirm that she has been called to this special outreach. 

     See for yourself at what obedience and God-given ability can produce at  . If you have a business or writing project to promote, you'll find a beautiful place to advertise and at a remarkable value in Christian Women's Voice.

Has God place something bigger than you on your heart?

"In God I have put my trust, 
       I shall not be afraid..."  
       (Psalm 56:11, NASB) 

 "Commit your works to the Lord
  And your plans will be established."  
          (Proverbs 16:3, NASB)

Tuesday, October 21, 2014


     This past week’s meme is almost too easy. October is the month that brings me to Beautiful Branson. The second week of this month is pretty phenomenal in the Ozarks, and we’ve been setting this vacation week aside each year for many years.

     The crisp air and beautiful sunshine make for a great place to recharge after a toasty Oklahoma summer. And the foliage is usually reaching its peak, although the leaves were being a little stubborn in giving up their summer green this fall. But, belated fall colors aside, you just can’t spoil the atmosphere there this time of the year. Fall decorations complete with smiling scarecrows and pumpkin patches affirm that fall has definitely arrived. The aroma of cinnamon and fall spices can get a reformed carb addict in serious trouble here.
Sight 'n Sound Theater

     Sight ‘n Sound Theater has such amazing productions. Jonah was the story told in unforgettable fashion this year. The music. The actors. The set. And the special effects? Just … WOW! A new show in town at Hamner’s Theater is a great variety event of talented musicians, acrobats, magicians, and dancers. And the magician is also a minister who leads in Sunday morning services at the theater. It was a little sad to see that Jim Stafford did not return to his theater this year. And the passing of Andy Williams is a huge signal that things just don’t remain the same in our lives.

Bridge at Dogwood Canyon
Built by the Amish

Dogwood Canyon
The highlight of this year’s trip was spending time with family and having the opportunity to introduce some of them to our favorite faces and places. The one that has moved to the top of my list is Dogwood Canyon, a 10,000-acre park with trails for walking, biking, and hiking, streams for trout fishing, waterfalls and stately trees for photographing. And, if you’re in the mood for some up-close-and-personal face time with buffalo, elk, and long-horn steers, a 2-hour tram ride will make that happen. Personally, I prefer walking for that two hours. It's a slice of Heaven on earth to this former country gal. But, next year I may even try the Segway! FYI: It's located about 30 miles south of Branson and you will need a map or Siri to get you there.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014


          If you had visited our home on any day since 1988, you would have been greeted by at least one Shih Tzu. We’ve recently added our fourth. The first one, Candy, lived to be almost 18 years old. The second one, Abby, left us this year after 10 ½ years of sweet companionship. Our current furry residents are Bailee and Maggie.
          These little gals all came from different places. They are members of the same breed, but the resemblance ends there. One thing they do have in common: Each one was adopted. Maggie is our most recent addition - a rescue dog who had to be shaved almost to the skin to free her from mattes, grass and other assorted tangles. One ear was accidentally “shortened” in the attempt to rid her of the misery. Their gratitude for a safe home and having their needs met each day has been obvious in each one of them. They look forward to their semi-weekly visits to the groomer to be pampered by skilled hands and a nurturing touch.
Maggie and Bailee

          We live with the inconveniences, and “mishaps” because they are now part of our family and because we love them unconditionally. They remind me that I, too, have been adopted, rescued from a dangerous and doomed future and received into a place of safety and hope for the future:

“So also we, while we were children, were held in
 bondage under the elemental things of the world. 
But when the fullness of the time came, 
God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, 
born under the Law, so that He might 
redeem those who were under the Law, 
that we might receive the adoption as sons.”
(Galatians 4:3-7, NASB)

          And, like our four little orphans I, too, am loved unconditionally, being groomed each day by the loving hands of Abba, Father. And...I am eternally grateful!

“Because you are sons, God has sent forth the 
Spirit of His Son into our hearts, crying, 
“Abba! Father!”
(Galatians 4:8, NASB)


Saturday, September 20, 2014

So...How Do YOU Feel About Facebook?

This past week I shared some love about Facebook at Jewels of Encouragement and dedicated the post to all Facebook Prayer Warriors. You can read about it here:

I Heart Facebook

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